What depression feels like

What depression feels like…
Imagine having the flu: body aches, tired, unable to stand, any movement takes everything out of you, faint headache, stomach ache – desire to eat meets feelings of puking. On top of the flu you are at the height of grieving your hardest loss. You cry, wail, wonder why, question life and your existence, unable to focus, unable to be productive, unable to eat, unable to care for yourself let alone anyone else. This sounds awful, right? Envision waking up one day just feeling this way…being alone, your friends and family are busy. No-one knows the pain you are feeling…you are all alone. 

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